You Have Two Options: Love or Fear | FreedHearts
John Lennon said, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion,...
View ArticleDon’t Hate Someone You Love « FreedHearts
A mom from a small, conservative town said to her son: “There aren’t any gays in this town.” Her son laughed and said, “Yes there are, Mom. They’re just deep in the closet… or they’ve moved away.” I...
View ArticleDerek Schell: 32 things I learned after coming out as gay
“I was blessed to find out who in my life was real; which relationships were based on love,” writes Derek Schell, who was openly gay on his college basketball team....
View ArticleWhat do you do when you find out your child is gay, lesbian or bisexual?
If you're like many parents, your first reaction is "How will I ever handle this?" Most parents aren't prepared for the words, "Mom, Dad. I'm gay." We hope this online resource will help you understand...
View ArticleAnswers to Your Questions About Sexual Orientation and Homosexuality
What is sexual orientation? Sexual orientation is one of the four components of sexuality and is distinguished by an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual or affectionate attraction to individuals of a...
View ArticleParents Live in Closets Too
I lived for about a year in the closet. Every time I heard a ‘queer’ joke, I squirmed and wanted to shout, “Stop! It’s not true.” However, I said nothing–but my silence only increased my feelings of...
View ArticleFor Professionals Who Work with GLBT Youth
Most youth begin to realize their sexual orientation at the onset of puberty. This could be as early as fourth or fifth grade. Many know that they are somehow “different” at a much earlier age....
View ArticleThe Blue Book : A great resource to read and pass on
The Blue Book is a manual that was a gift to the congregation of The Presbyterian Church, Mt. Kisco, New York,in recognition of the love and support that its church members have given to individuals...
View ArticleOur Daughters and Sons: Questions and Answers for Parents of Gay, Lesbian and...
Our Daughters and Sons: Questions and Answers for Parents of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual People. One of our most popular publications, this is a “must read” for parents who are forming new and honest...
View ArticleNuestras hijas y nuestros hijos: Preguntas y respuestas para padres de gays,...
Nuestras hijas y nuestros hijos: Preguntas y respuestas para padres de gays, lesbianas y bisexuales. A culturally appropriate Spanish translation of “Our Daughters and Sons,” this booklet is a valuable...
View ArticleFaith in Our Families: Parents, Families and Friends Talk About Religion and...
Faith in Our Families: Parents, Families and Friends Talk About Religion and Homosexuality. Discovering that a loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender can pose new questions about your faith...
View ArticleWelcoming Our Trans Family and Friends
Welcoming Our Trans Family and Friends. Welcoming Our Trans Family and Friends is a resource for parents and friends of transgender and gender non-conforming adults and youth. This guide will help...
View ArticleDealing with a Friend Coming Out
When someone tells you that they are gay, lesbian, or bisexual…try to be aware and/or remember that: This person is apt to have spent many hours in thoughtful preparation and shares the information...
View ArticleWhen Your Child Tells You He’s Gay
Your 16-year-old son comes to you for help on everything from friendships to French homework. The two of you banter for hours about politics, sports, and the latest television reality show. There...
View ArticleWhen Your Child Says He/She is Gay/Lesbian
Q: My 14 year-old claims to be gay. Help. A: Right now, you may feel that you’re the only parent in the world facing this situation, but this question is one of the most common ones received by two of...
View ArticleCould Your Teenager Be Gay?
Secretly, many parents hope not. But if the answer is yes, there’s a lot of support to help you and your child along the journey. A few weeks before writing this, I bumped into an acquaintance, a...
View ArticleMy Child is GAY! Now What Do I Do?
Bewildered? Confused? Angry? Feeling guilty? Worried? Believe me, you’re not alone. As the gay community comes out of the closet, parents by the hundreds of thousands are discovering that they are the...
View ArticleWhat to do when your child says: “I’m gay!”
You have just learned that your child is gay, lesbian, or transgendered. You’re experiencing self-blame (“Did I do something wrong?”), grief (“The child I thought I knew and loved no longer exists!”),...
View Article“I’m Christian, unless you’re gay”
Today I want to write about something that has bothered me for the better part of a decade. I’ve carved out no fewer than a dozen drafts of this post, all strangely unalike, all ultimately failing to...
View ArticleA Letter To Louise: A Biblical Affirmation of Homosexuality
INTRODUCTION I have been asked if Louise is real. Yes, and this was a real letter to her. Shortly after I had gone to my first pastorate out of the seminary, Louise invited my wife, Anna Marie, and me...
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